BOUNDARIES

Lately I've been bothered with this issue with my friend. After hearing the way she reacted I started thinking and reflecting about the overall effect of the situation to me, to our friendship, and to our circle. We are close as anyone could ever be in a friendship. We know each others problems, our moods, our behaviors, our mannerism, our life and yes even each and everyone’s love lives in the group. But after this incident with our friend it made me think if ever we overstepped our boundaries? I won’t go into details of the incident only that due to our meddling we hurt our friend. Maybe it was good that we did at least she knew our sentiment or it wasn't in our place to say those things about this guy?
In friendship where do we draw the line especially when it comes to your friend’s love life? Do we need to interfere or we need to take the backseat and let her cruise on this ride all by herself in the front seat alone. Where do we draw the line? Is it much better if we just let things be since it’s a decision your friend made and anything you say won’t matter, since we need to respect her decision? Where does friendly advices start and end and where does meddling start? How would you know that you’re already meddling or just giving advices? How would you know that you already overstepped your boundaries until it’s too late? Is there any rules or guidelines that we didn’t know that we should follow? Do you give help or advice when she didn’t ask for it or should you wait to give them until she asks? Do you stand aside even you see injustice done or you say it honestly to her face even you know you will hurt her?
A lot of questions pop up still got more questions than answers. Bottom line where do you draw the line?(from my friend's blog)

I was going to do my own blog about this but now that I've thought about it and sat infront of the computer for quite a few hours of just merely typing, retyping and deleting...I gave up. I can't write about it at all. I don't know what to say nor write nor react anymore. All I know now is that Im happy to be with him, happy to be in a state where cannot be's are as clear as crystal. It's not infatuation nor an overwhelmed state of mind coz if it was, then the feeling of bliss I have should be over by now for Im a thousand miles away again. Yet surprised as I am, for Im a non-believer of long distance shitholes myself, this situation Im in right now works. Probably my friends are right and probably my friends are wrong; Probably I'm right and probably I'm wrong. But it doesn't matter to me because there's no deadline for this. Im not in hurry for anything. I just like a person, probably not the usual type of person I've liked before, but I could care less about it because Im happy. He makes me happy. And if this state of bliss goes away in the long run, life still goes on because I didn't commit to anything other than give this person a chance to court me; to prove his worth. If he fails, too bad right? True, Ill be sad and all but unlike before, never will I be hurt again for its not my loss but his.

Till Next Time HBs...

I had so much fun when I went back to the Philippines for my first vacation after 5 whole years in California. I wished I could have spent more than a month in a place I'll always call HOME...but life goes on and given this opportunity was WELL WORTH IT, I couldn't ask for more. The great thing about going home again was seeing my friends who had known my ups and downs, my mood swings and what not when we were still growing up. And the best part was bringing us all together again. I had no idea that my homecoming would be the instigator to what we all thought was a lost cause. Of course after highschool, each of us had our own run for our future and success. We all went to different colleges and universities and when we do get the chance to see each other, it will only be a passing "hi's" and "hellos". That was what we all thought. Then I went home during the last week of June and what do you know...the magic started and little by little we all got together. I was surprised really because I never thought that these guys,my good ol friends, would act as if it was just yesterday when we last saw each other. Funny, I had to laugh this one out.

I've missed my friends..I've missed them so much God knows! And I was so glad that I finally got the chance to go home after so much hold backs and problems. And of course thankful because they made my stay..just by being together and doing nothing..all I could ever dream of. Just like old times indeed. I'm more happy now because they are continuing what we had started, the friendship bond, we call it the HB bond hehe. They are working things out by hanging out more and of course partying and getting drunk hehe. That's how we do it in Iloilo...hehe! God bless ya'll HBs..you know who you are! Keep it real. And I'll see you next time off to BORA! We have a lot of working out to do gurlz xooo I'd say bring it on! hehe.
Mwaaaahhhhhhh luvz ya mucho!!!! No more goodbyes HBs... only a lifetime of red horse!

always & 4ever...