BOUNDARIES

Lately I've been bothered with this issue with my friend. After hearing the way she reacted I started thinking and reflecting about the overall effect of the situation to me, to our friendship, and to our circle. We are close as anyone could ever be in a friendship. We know each others problems, our moods, our behaviors, our mannerism, our life and yes even each and everyone’s love lives in the group. But after this incident with our friend it made me think if ever we overstepped our boundaries? I won’t go into details of the incident only that due to our meddling we hurt our friend. Maybe it was good that we did at least she knew our sentiment or it wasn't in our place to say those things about this guy?
In friendship where do we draw the line especially when it comes to your friend’s love life? Do we need to interfere or we need to take the backseat and let her cruise on this ride all by herself in the front seat alone. Where do we draw the line? Is it much better if we just let things be since it’s a decision your friend made and anything you say won’t matter, since we need to respect her decision? Where does friendly advices start and end and where does meddling start? How would you know that you’re already meddling or just giving advices? How would you know that you already overstepped your boundaries until it’s too late? Is there any rules or guidelines that we didn’t know that we should follow? Do you give help or advice when she didn’t ask for it or should you wait to give them until she asks? Do you stand aside even you see injustice done or you say it honestly to her face even you know you will hurt her?
A lot of questions pop up still got more questions than answers. Bottom line where do you draw the line?(from my friend's blog)

I was going to do my own blog about this but now that I've thought about it and sat infront of the computer for quite a few hours of just merely typing, retyping and deleting...I gave up. I can't write about it at all. I don't know what to say nor write nor react anymore. All I know now is that Im happy to be with him, happy to be in a state where cannot be's are as clear as crystal. It's not infatuation nor an overwhelmed state of mind coz if it was, then the feeling of bliss I have should be over by now for Im a thousand miles away again. Yet surprised as I am, for Im a non-believer of long distance shitholes myself, this situation Im in right now works. Probably my friends are right and probably my friends are wrong; Probably I'm right and probably I'm wrong. But it doesn't matter to me because there's no deadline for this. Im not in hurry for anything. I just like a person, probably not the usual type of person I've liked before, but I could care less about it because Im happy. He makes me happy. And if this state of bliss goes away in the long run, life still goes on because I didn't commit to anything other than give this person a chance to court me; to prove his worth. If he fails, too bad right? True, Ill be sad and all but unlike before, never will I be hurt again for its not my loss but his.