A good catch is a good catch eventhough the right one hasn't come along

Yesterday and today were somewhat realization days for me. Two of my guy friends opened up to me. Love had ended for them they said, which was weird because I just ended my sorta lovestory recently, specifically last week too. I mean not as complicated as compared to their stories because mine was completely out of the context of couples thing but you know what I mean, we were all hurt in one way or another. All that they said and ranted to me gave me ideas and views that were similar to mine, and considering the fact that they were guys made me realized that guys are no different from girls when it comes to a break-up. They have their own denial stage, blaming themselves or their exs' stage, and suicidal "i don't want to live and feel anymore" stage. The only difference is, they tend to hide it, they tend to not,as much as possible, let anyone know that they are hurting because its unmanly for them. That's why girls always get mad or cry even more when they see their exs' very cool, calm and collected, and think right away, "he's a bastard, he doesn't really care, see he already forgot about me." But the truth is, they just want it bottled up inside and only their trusted people are the ones that see the hurt in them. Girls have friends they can cry rivers to, and girls can get so emotional and people around them won't mind at all because they are girls, it's ok for them to be all emotional. But with guys, yes they do have friends who will understand, but it's not common for guys to break down easily to whomever can listen.

Funny how love ends right? Though they end differently for each person, but when you come and think about it more closely, it is similar in ways unexplainable sometimes. That's why we don't talk about break-ups so much. It's a scary thought and even scarier when you've experienced it. The "I told you so" and "Don't say I didn't warn you" sentences bug you to death. But still we love to love. The sadness of a loss will eventually tone down and life goes on. Whattaheck. I can just smile.

Ps. Btw, I watched "The Break-Up" on dvd today, starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn. It was a funny movie, and thank goodness they really did live up to the movie title because they didn't resolve anything. They totally broke up. No happy endings, yippee!